The problem with most "rules" is that they are imposed from the top down. Imagine if your boss changed your working hours without asking you. You'd rebel.
Kids are the same. When we dictate screen rules, they fight back. When we collaborate on an agreement, they buy in.
✍️ Note from the Editor
"I used to just yell 'Turn it off!' It never worked. The day we sat down and wrote this agreement together, everything changed. My son actually polices *me* now if I check my phone at dinner. Fair is fair!" — Sarah, HAVENSE Founder
1. The "Must-Dos" First
Don't set a hard time limit (like "1 hour a day") immediately. Instead, focus on priorities.
The rule is simple: Screens are a privilege, not a right. They happen after the Must-Dos:
- ✅ Homework is done.
- ✅ Chores are finished.
- ✅ Wait... there's one more.
2. The "Green Zone" Concept
Not all screen time is equal. Creating a Minecraft castle is creativity. Mindlessly scrolling TikTok is consumption. We categorize apps into colors:
- 🟢 Green Apps (Unlimited-ish): Coding apps, reading, creative tools (Canva, GarageBand).
- 🟡 Yellow Apps (Limited): Minecraft, select YouTube channels (Educational).
- 🔴 Red Apps (Strict Limits): Social Media, "Candy Crush" style games.
3. Download the Template
We've created a simple, printable PDF that you can fill out with your child tonight.
It includes sections for:
- Weekdays vs. Weekends
- Device-Free Zones (e.g., The Dinner Table)
- Consequences (that you both agree on in advance)
Ready to print it?
Get the official HAVENSE Family Tech Agreement in our Library.
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